Individual Therapy
You’re stuck in a cycle
Be calm. Be strong. Stay quiet.
But that silence turns into withdrawal, resentment, or anger.
You might feel:
Like nothing you do is ever right
Unsure how to express frustration without making things worse
Defensive, triggered, or constantly on edge
Overwhelmed by emotional demands
These aren't weaknesses, they're survival responses. We'll help you break this cycle without changing who you are.
What therapy looks like here
We don’t do fluffy or soft. We do strategic, practical, and real.
You'll learn to:
Clearly express your side without shutdown or conflict
Communicate confidently, without second-guessing yourself
Build emotional leadership at home and in relationships
Reconnect authentically, without resentment or passivity
You’ll show up fully, not perfectly.
How it works
1. Book a Consultation
We clarify your goals and map your path forward.
2. Start with Strategy
Personalized tools rooted in EFT, communication strategies, and emotional leadership specifically for men.
3. Lead with Clarity
Practice skills to repair, reconnect, and confidently lead your relationships.
50 mins | $180 (sliding scale spots available)
How does online therapy work?
I provide secure telehealth sessions throughout Washington and Idaho. You'll receive a private video link, and we meet from wherever you're comfortable, home, office, or car. Sessions are HIPAA-compliant and confidential.
What if I've never done therapy before?
Most of my clients haven't. The first session is just a conversation, you share what's bringing you here, I explain how I work, and we decide if we're a good fit. No pressure.
How long will I need therapy?
Most men notice meaningful shifts within 4-6 sessions. Some continue for a few months to solidify new patterns. We'll check in regularly about progress, this isn't therapy where you come for years without seeing results.
What if I don't know what to say?
That's normal. I'll guide the conversation. You don't need to have it all figured out before you start, that's what we'll work on together.
How much does it cost?
Sessions are 50 minutes and $180. I accept insurance (Blue Cross Blue Shield, Regence, Premera, Aetna, First Choice) and offer a limited number of sliding-scale spots for those who qualify.
Is this confidential?
Yes. Everything you share is confidential within legal and ethical limits. I don't share information with anyone unless you're at risk of harming yourself or others, or there's suspected abuse of a child or vulnerable adult.
What if we're not a good fit?
I'll tell you. If I think a different therapist or approach would serve you better, I'll refer you. Your progress matters more than keeping you as a client.
Frequently Asked Questions
Couples Therapy
You’re always having the same fight
One partner shuts down. The other lashes out.
Or maybe you're both exhausted from trying to reconnect, but nothing changes.
You might feel:
Like every conversation leads nowhere
Constantly misunderstood or unheard
Emotionally distant or disconnected
Afraid to bring things up, knowing it'll trigger the same fight
You’re not here because love faded. You're here because connection did.
What therapy looks like here
We cut through surface conflicts to address what's really happening underneath.
You'll learn to:
Break cycles of pursue/withdraw and repetitive arguments
Communicate clearly so your partner truly hears you
Repair emotional wounds without blame or shame
Rebuild intimacy that lasts beyond therapy
Move from reacting out of fear to responding with intention.
Who we help
Couples stuck in repetitive conflict
Partners tired of walking on eggshells
Relationships facing emotional disconnection or crisis
Couples who've tried everything but still feel stuck
1. Book a Consultation Clarify your goals and see how therapy can help.
2. Deep Dive Sessions Personalized combination of individual and joint sessions to clearly identify your patterns.
3. Rebuild Together Structured tools and practical strategies tailored for lasting change.
50-90 mins | $200-250 (sliding scale spots available)
What if my partner doesn't want to come?
This is one of the most common questions. We can start with you individually. Often, when one partner starts changing the pattern, the other becomes more willing to join. I'll help you navigate that conversation.
Do you see both of us together or separately?
Both. I typically start with joint sessions to understand your dynamic, then alternate between joint and individual sessions. This helps me understand each person's perspective while addressing the relationship as a whole.
What if we're already considering divorce?
Come anyway. Couples therapy can help you make that decision with clarity rather than reactivity. If you decide to separate, you'll have tools to do it respectfully. If you decide to stay, you'll have rebuilt a foundation worth staying for.
How long until we feel better?
It depends! Most couples experience a shift within the first few sessions, less tension, better communication, moments of real connection. Deep patterns take longer to change (typically 3-6 months), and continued effort is required by both partners, but you'll feel progress along the way.
What if one of us has an affair or breach of trust?
We can work with that. Rebuilding trust after betrayal is possible with structured support. I'll help both partners process the pain, understand what led to the breach, and decide whether to rebuild or separate with dignity.
How much does it cost?
Sessions are 50-90 minutes and range from $200-250 depending on session length. I accept insurance (Blue Cross Blue Shield, Regence, Premera, Aetna, First Choice) and offer a limited number of sliding-scale spots.
What happens in the first session?
I'll ask about your relationship history, current challenges, and what you each want to change. You'll leave with at least one practical tool you can use immediately, not weeks from now.
Is this confidential?
Yes, with one caveat: I can't keep secrets from one partner if it's shared in individual sessions. If something comes up that affects the relationship (like an ongoing affair), we'll address it together.
Frequently Asked Questions
First Responders
The stress you don’t show
You’re trained to handle crisis, trauma, and chaos.
But off-duty, that strength can become isolation, stress, or exhaustion.
You might feel:
Constantly on edge or easily triggered
Emotionally disconnected at home
Unable to shake the impact of traumatic experiences
Like no one really understands your reality
Your strength shouldn't mean carrying these burdens alone. We're here to help you manage, heal, and reconnect.
How it works
Tailored for first responders
This isn't generic therapy. It's structured support from someone who understands your world.
You'll learn to:
Manage and reduce stress from cumulative trauma
Reconnect emotionally at home and at work
Build practical resilience strategies to protect your mental health
Navigate difficult conversations without shutting down or losing control
You already know how to survive. Let's help you thrive.
Who this is for
First responders dealing with chronic stress or burnout
Professionals who feel emotionally distant or isolated
Individuals seeking tools to manage trauma and relationship stress
Those ready for practical support and real results
1. Book Your Consultation Clarify your challenges and goals in a confidential, supportive call.
2. Tailored Sessions Personalized therapy sessions using trauma-informed approaches and practical strategies.
3. Build Lasting Resilience Gain tools and strategies to manage stress, heal relationships, and thrive professionally and personally.
50 mins | $180 (sliding scale spots available)
1. Book Your Consultation
We start with a confidential call where you share what you're dealing with—work stress, relationship strain, trauma, or just feeling off. I'll explain how therapy works and answer questions. No department affiliation. No reporting. Just support.
2. Tailored Sessions
We meet for 50-minute sessions via secure telehealth. I use trauma-informed approaches and practical strategies designed for first responders, people who've seen things most can't imagine and are trained to suppress it. We'll address stress, trauma, relationship impacts, and build resilience.
3. Build Lasting Resilience
You'll gain tools to manage stress, reconnect emotionally at home and at work, navigate difficult conversations, and process trauma without letting it run your life. Many first responders feel relief and clarity after the first session.
Is this confidential? Will you contact my department?
Absolutely confidential. I'm a private therapist, not affiliated with any department, agency, or EAP program. I don't report back to anyone unless there's a legal or safety obligation (harm to self/others, child abuse). What you share stays between us.
How is this different from EAP or department resources?
EAP programs are often limited (3-6 sessions) and some first responders worry about confidentiality. I'm completely independent, offer ongoing support as long as you need it, and specialize in first responder mental health, not generic counseling.
What if I've tried therapy before and it didn't help?
Most first responders who've had bad therapy experiences worked with someone who didn't understand the culture, the stress, or the stigma. I do. Therapy here isn't about "talking about your feelings", it's about practical tools, managing trauma, and protecting what matters most.
Do I have to talk about traumatic calls?
Only if you want to. Some first responders need to process specific incidents. Others need help with cumulative stress, relationship issues, or managing anger. We'll focus on what you need, not what a textbook says you should address.
Can I do therapy around my shift schedule?
Yes. I offer flexible scheduling including evenings and weekends to work around rotating shifts, 24-hour schedules, and last-minute callouts. We can adjust as needed.
How long will I need therapy?
It depends on what you're working on. Some first responders come for a few sessions to get through a rough patch. Others stay longer to address deeper trauma or relationship patterns. Most feel relief within the first 3-6 sessions.
How much does it cost?
Sessions are 50 minutes and $180. I accept insurance (Blue Cross Blue Shield, Regence, Premera, Aetna, First Choice) and offer a limited number of sliding-scale spots for first responders.
What if my family/partner thinks I should go to therapy but I don't think I need it?
Come for one session. If therapy isn't helpful, I'll tell you. But often the people closest to us notice changes before we do—irritability, withdrawal, emotional distance. One conversation won't hurt, and it might help more than you expect.